MISTURA'S FRIENDS I NEED YOUR HELP.

 Bolanle has given birth to a bouncing baby boy. No marriage yet,  don't worry you will be invited if that happens. 

We rallied round her, she move in with her boyfriend, and we gave  her money to rent a shop (one hundred and twenty thousand,) her father gave it to her. I also sent goods down and we from our side gave her an additional two hundred thousand to start trading.

She got tired and said she doesn't want to marry again, can't explain what happened here but, I was aware of all the troubles, Bolanle is my own and I would not lie that she has taken the piss. 

She fought the guy and accused him of beating her, I will never support a man beating a woman, but in this case, Bolanle had already battered the guy and with what I know,  I couldn't blame the guy, he did some things, but he did not do everything that Bolanle was claiming that he did because the guy was constantly calling me and telling me as Bolanle's aggression was increasing. At some point he took all his stuff and ran from his house and Bolanle still went to his office to fight him. He called me, and I called everyone except Mistura and Bodamì because I knew that they would mess things up.

For you guys who know who Bolanle had become, it was a miracle that she was where she was then, someone impregnated her and was willing to marry her in the Nigeria of to day.

The guy couldn't take it anymore and fought back. I didn't see Bolanle's injury but there was an injury on the guy, both tooth bites at the back of his upper arm and all his doors and house smashed. 

Bolanle reported to our Arabic teacher (Alfa Rafiu) who then advised Bolanle to get the boyfriend that she was carrying his child arrested by the police without informing us, I new nothing about the arrest and none of my family was involved in this arrest, it was Bolanle and Alfa Rafiu's decision. 

Bolanle was still pregnant and she left her shop, she went to Benin Republic.  The guy called her a couple of times but she refused to return home. For more than a month, I can not be precise, Bolanle returned and at about aftet two weeks ago,  called the boyfriend in the middle of the night that her water broke. 

The guy rushed down and took Bolanle to three different hospitals before they could accept her and the condition that she came In with. The guy called me but I stayed away because I had been accused of using Bolanle for spiritual gain, at the same time taking her destiny, this was after spending all my money oo, but I wasn't the only one, even Mistura was the one  who used her destiny first as she claims, then Aunty Kudi, before myself and Femì wolì ( Lanre's friend) collected her destiny for me to create good fortune for my boys. Up till now the thought of using anything from her runs a shiver down my spine, I rejected that type of destiny and I wouldn't wish it on my enemy. 

As I was saying,  I couldn't answer or be part of the process when she was taken to the hospital. Moreover  the newest issue was that, Bolanle had brought her boyfriend to me and I had taken (a romantic , may be non romantic) interest in the boy, and I acquaint myself with him, even more than Bolanle my own; 'God ! What is wrong with people? ' if you don't help they say you ignore your people; if you help they say, you are using their destiny.  If your destiny is still intact why do you need my help? 

Well, she gave birth and the boy friend was there with her. There were complications because Bolanle didn't have anywhere to go, when she left her boyfriends house. Which lead to her becoming homeless. 

 Although, she wanted  Aunty Kudi to rent her an apartment but I blatantly rejected that.  We did not impregnate her and put her out of the boyfriends house,  also, I noticed that Bolanle believed that we were willing to look after her pregnancy to avoid her blackmailing us, she's been accusing us of keeping her  mother's property and we are not helping her. But the last time I checked,  I realised that, we sent Bolanle to school and paid for everything that kept her alive.  

Her mother left her since she was two years old, she travelled and some of us invested heavily in caring for Bolanle finacially, when some were only sorting their education, but  we all took care of her. 

Also, her mother's death was sudden and she was still very young, she was under age when she got pregnant and Bolanle's father did not stay to protect her, He ran. 

So she had nothing to her name and She left nothing for Bolanle.  For all that we had given both money and support was because we took her as one of us, which she doesn't deserve. 

Controversially, After Bolanle gave birth, the boyfriend sold his car to pay the balance of five hundred thousand Naira, Mistura had paid about two hundred and fifty thousand Naira  for down payment and the boy paid a little on top of that before he cleared the final payment. 

He texted me and said, he needed me to speak to him now. It sounds serious so I called him back. He said he wanted to bring Bolanle and his son home because they have been discharged from the hospital but he was afraid because he could not live in the same house with Bolanle considering all the lies she threw against him when she arrested him. So he said he would bring them home but he would find somewhere else to stay for the time being.  

He called Bolanle that very night and told her to pack all her things, that he was  coming to take them home. Bolanle told him to wait till the second day because it was too late in the night,( 🕚 11 o'clock,) and he responded that, he might not be able to see them the second day because of work and lamented to me. I told him to wait, since she wanted him to wait. 

He call me the second day as he got home from work, he said that he wanted to go and pick them.  It was in the evening again, the phone rang and rang but Bolanle did not pick the phone and after some time the phone stopped ringing.  He said well,  maybe it's because it's late again and decided to go and pick them first thing in the morning on Thursday. 

On Thursday morning, he called Bolanle that  he was on his way to pick them up, that Bolanle should put things together, but Bolanle said her father's people are coming to pick her. So, he  ran down there so that he could meet the father's people and on getting there, the Nurses said Bolanle had left since yesterday,  that she said, he wanted to come and pick them in the middle of the night, possibly for malicious reasons. 

I wouldn't talk about issues like this if I could reach  all the right people in person and the only way to reach you all is through this channel. 

We The Adenekan's are not in support of Bolanle's behaviour. 

MISTURA was the only one supporting this Idea of removing some ones Son from the hospital behind the father's back. 

Boda mì must be aware of the reasons behind it and Alfa Rafiu possibly can explain why they allow that kind of decision. 

This is not on us. Please if you want information on this matter you should call, 

 Boda mì Ganì, I'm not sure if he was aware that the child would be removed from the hospital though, 

Call Alfa Rafiu,  He is Bolanle's confidant. 

And Mistura is the brain behind it all. 

Please let the guy see his Son. You have no right to do what you have done and it is all on you.

 

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UCHECHUKWU MALCOM IBEAKUZIE FAMILY TREE

Uchechukwu M Ibeakuzie is the son of Abosede Adenekan and Obinna Ibeakuzie.

Abosede Adenekan is the daughter of ; HIS ROYAL HIGHNESS the OLUAJE OF AJEGUNLE.
CHIEF SS ADENEKAN. WHO DIED ON THE 4TH OF JULY,2004.

Obinna Ibeakuzie is the son of MR EMMANUEL IBEKWE IBEAKUZIE.
MR EMMANUEL IBEKWE IBEAKUZIE KNOWN AS (EGUNGWU- NWATALEOGBOO.
WHO DIED ON THE 16TH OF MAY, 2013. MR EMMANUEL WAS BORN ON THE 8TH OF AUGUST,1938. AND WAS BURIED THE 12 JULY 2013 10AM.

MR EMMANUEL IBEKWE IBEAKUZIE'S COUNTRY HOME IS IN THE OBOSI IDEMILI NORTH L.G.A., ANAMBRA STATE.

OBINNA S IBEAKUZIE WAS BROGHT UP BY HIS GRANDMOTHER ON HIS MOTHER SIDE,
THE UYELUMOR FAMILY. OBINNA LATER LEFT BECAUSE OF THE BAD TREATMENT WHICH HIS GRANDMOTHER GAVE HIM. HE LEFT OBOSI VILLAGE AT THE AGE OF 16 TO LEARN HOW TO BECOME A PROFESSIONAL  TRADER. HE WORKED WITH HIS MASTER
FOR NINE YEARS, IN LAGOS. WHEN HE LEFT, HE STAYED AT THE UYELUMOR GORGE FAMILY HOUSE FOR A FEW MONTHS TRYING TO GET A VISA TO TRAVEL OUT OF THE COUNTRY.
 OBNNA'S master did not pay him his dues to be able to survive life and the money given to him was not even enough to travel, but his uncle in lagos whose house he was staying at,at the time, GORGE Uyelumore,  he gave him a sum of 300 thousand naira  to be able to pursue his dream in England.

Obinna had lived in many country before he finally came to England where he met Abosede Adenekan at canning town station, on her way to visit a friend and their friendship proceeded to pregnancy of Chiamaka Favour Omotola Ibeakuzie.

                 CHIAMAKA IBEAUZIE IS THE FIRST DAUGHTER OF OBINNA SAMUEL IBEAKUZIE
                                                                       ^
                                                                        
                             THE FIRST SON OF OBINNA IBEAKUZIE
                                                                       
                                                                  IS
                                     UCHECHUKWU MALCOM IBEAKUZIE
                                                                    ^

                                         OBINNA'S SECOND SON IS
                                    ONYEKACHUKWU EMMANUEL IBEAKUZIE

                                                                     ^
                                                      OBINNA, THE FIRST SON OF
                                                EMMANUEL IBEKWE IBEAKUZIE
                                                                        ^
   ADEAZE IS THE FIRST DAUGHTER OF EMMANUEL IBEKWE IBEAKUZIE
                                                                       ^

                                  THE SECOND DAUGHTER IS EBELE CHIOMA BEAKUZIE
                                                                           ^

                                            THE  SECOND SON OF EMMANUEL IBEAKUZIE IS:

                                                     CHINEDU GODWIN IBEAKUZIE
                                            THE THIRD DAUGHTER IS OJUIGO                     IFENYINWA MERCEY
                                                  THE THIRD SON OF MR EMMANUEL IBEAKUZIE IS
                                                          CHUKWUEBUKA E IBEAKUZIE.
 THE IBEAKUZIE FAMILY STARTED FROM UM-OCHIOGA SUB FAMILY OF IRE VILLAGE
IN OBOSI IDEMILY NORTH L.G.A, ANAMBRA STATE. THE FAMILY TREE WHICH WAS
TRACED BY ONE OF THE SONS OF IBEAKUZIE MR CHINEDU GODWIN IBEAKUZIE AND WAS PUBLISHED BY ABOSEDE ADENEKAN IN THE MONTH OF AUGUST 2013 IN LONDON.THE HISTORY OF IBEAKUZIE WAS TRACED to

UMU - OCHIOGA WHO WAS THE FATHER OF
UNWOZO & NNEBO OCHIOGA
 UMU OCHIOGA HAVE TWO SONS
NNEBO OCHIOGA ,THE FIRST SON
UNWOZO OCHIOGA.

NNEBO OCHIOGA HAD FOUR CHILDREN
 IBEAKUZIE OCHIOGA THE FIRST SON
 UNDUMAYA OCHIOGA
OBIASA OCHIOGA
IWEKA OCHIOGA

IBEAKUZIE HAD THREE CHILDREN OF
CHUKWUANU IBEAKUZIE FIRST SON
APATIMUTUA IBEAKUZIE
ANIEKWE IBEAKUZIE

IBEAKUZIE IS THE GREAT GRANDFATHER OF ALL IBEAKUZIES.  FOR A REASONABLE REASON

KNOWN TO HIM ALONE,  HE DECIDED TO DROP HIS FAMILY NAME,  'OCHIOGA' AND KEEP HIS NAME AS THE FAMILY NAME, IBEAKUZIE.

FROM THE IBEAKUZIE GENERATION ALL THE CHILDREN OF THE OCHIOGA FAMILY BORN BY IBEAKUZIE KEPT HIS NAME IBEAKUZIE AS THEIR SURNAME.

CHUKWUANU HAS THREE CHILDREN
EMMANUEL IBEKWE IBEAKUZIE THE FIRST SON
UCHENNA IBEAKUZIE
OBI IBEAKUZIE

EMMANUEL IBEKWE IBEAKUZIE HAS SIX CHILDREN
ADAEZE IBEAKUZIE
EBELE IBEAKUZIE
OBINNA IBEAKUZIE THE FIRST SON
CHIEDU IBEAKUZIE
OJUIGO IBEAKUZIE

OBINNA IBEAKUZIE HAS THREE CHILDREN AT THE MOMENT
CHIAMAKA IBEAKUZIE
UCHECHUKWU IBEAKUZIE THE FIRST SON
ONYEKACHUKWU IBEAKUZIE
EBUKA IBEAKUZIE

BY THE YEAR 2015 THE IBEAKUZIE FAMILY TREE HAD ONLY BEEN TRACED TO SIX GENERATION BY ABOSEDE ADENEKAN.

WIKIPEDIA OBOSI AND IRE VILLAGE IN ANAMBRA STATE

OBOSI IS ONE OF THE VILLAGE IN ANAMBRA STATE IN NIGERIA. THIS INFORMATION IS RECEIVE FROM WIKILOPEDIA, THE FREE ENCCYCLOPEDIA.

ANAMBRA IS A STATE IN SOUTH-EASTERN NIGERIA. Is name is an anglicised version of the original 'OMA MBALA'. The native name of the Anambra  river.

The capital and the seat of government is AWKA.
Onitsha and Nnewi are the biggest commercial and industrial cities, respectively.

THE STATE'S THEME IS "LIGHT OF THE NATION".

Boundaries are formed by DELTA STATE  to the west, IMO STATE and RIVER STATE to the south, ENUGU STATE to the east and KOGI STATE to the north.

The origin of the name is derived from the Anambra river OMAMBALA which is a tributary of the famous RIVER NIGER.

THE INDIGENIOUSE ETHNIC GROUP OF THE ANAMBRA STATE ARE IGBO THEY ARE ABOUT 98% OF THE POPULATION, A SMALL POPULATION OF IGBALA  ARE ABOUT 2% OF THE POPULATION WHO LIVE IN THE NOTH WESTERN PART OF THE STATE.

Anambra is the  most populated state in the Federal Republic of Nigeria, and the second most densely populated state in Nigeria after Lagos state. The stretch of more than 45km between OBA and AMORKA contains  a cluster of numerous thickly populated villages and small towns giving the area an estimated average density of 1,500-2,000 persons per square kilometre.
                                                               
                                                                        RESOURCES
Anambra is rich in natural gas, crude oil, bauxite, ceramic and has an almost 100 percent  arable soil.

In the year 2006, a foundation ceremony for the first Nigerian private refinery orient petroleum refinery (OPR) was made in Nsugbe-aguleri area.
The orient petroleum resource Ltd, (OPRL) OWNER OF OPR, WAS LICENCED IN JUNE 2002, by the federal government to construct a private refinery with a 55,000 b/d capacity.

Further more, Anambra state is a state that as many other resources in terms of agro based activities like fishing and farming, as well as land cultivated for pasturing and animal husbandry.

Currently Anambra state has the lowest poverty rate in Nigeria.

                                                                                    HISTORY OF ANAMBRA
Anambra possesses a history that stretches back to the 9th century AD, as revealed by archaeological exacavation at IGBO-UKWU and Ezira; Great work in iron, bronze, copper, and pottery works belonging to the ancient kingdom of Nri, REVEALED A sophisticated divine kingship administrative system which held sway in the area of anambra from c. 948 AD to 1911.

During the Nigerian/Biafran  war a relief airstrip, was constructed by Biafran Engineers in the town of Uli/Amorka(code named "Annabelle"). Extremely dangerous relief flights took off from SAO TOME and other sites loaded with tons of relief supplies to the Biafran population.
Disgusted by the suffering and mounting death toll in Biafra from starvation as well as the continuous  harassement of the relief planes by the Nigerian Airforce, CARL GUSTAF VON ROSEN resigned as a red cross relief supplier to biafra to form an AIRFORCE OF FIVE MINICOIN PLANES MALMO MFI-9 station at the Uga airstrip. HE NAMED HIS TINY BUT EFFECTIVE AIRFORCE "BABIES OF BIAFRA" in honour of the babies who died via starvation inside Biafra.

OLD ANAMBRA STATE WAS CREATED IN 1976 FROM PART OF EAST CENTRAL STATE , AND ITS CAPITAL WAS ENUGU. A  RE-ORGANISATION IN 1991 DIVIDED ANAMBRA INTO TWO STATES, ANAMBRA AND ENUGU THE CAPITAL OF ANAMBRA IS AWKA .

                                                                               CULTURE AND TOURISM
AGULU CROCODILE  LAKE IS LOCATED ALONG AWKA ROAD IN AGULU, ANIOCHA LOCAL GOVERNMENT AREA OF THE STATE. A potential  tourist site, it is home to an estimated three hundred crocodiles and water. Fishing is not allowed on the lake and the crocodiles, being sacred animal to the people, can not be killed. Legend says that these crocodiles were instruments in delivering the town from enemy soldiers during the Nigerian civil war. It is also believed that these sacred crocodiles and turtles transformed themselves into  beautiful ladies and lured the solders unaware, into the lake where they disappeared without a trace. At noon the crocodiles and the turtles appeared at the bank of the lake to take sunlight. Vsit the link for more information edit source



                                      NAMES OF OBOSI PEOPLE IN LONDON

 

MEET THE LONDONERS

OBINNA IBEAKUZIE

ABUA IBEAKUZIE

ONYEKA UYELUMOR

JERRY NWORAH

SALOBRA OKEY

CHUKA AGOM

NATHANIEL NWORA

OGO ICHU

CHI CHI  AKUTU

IKENNA NDRIKA

OBINNA OBAEMEKA

DOZIE MADUKA

EMEKA ENELI

IK OKOMA

NONYE CHUKE

OBINNA UGOANA

MARTIN AGWUEGBO

NZUBIKE IWEDINOBI

EMEKA OGBOGU

CHUKWUDI OJIAKU

ERIC NWANEGBO

CHUKA NJEGBU

UCHE IBEME

EBELE ONWUEGBUSI

ONYEKA ONOCHIE

ONOCHIE OKOLO

AMAKA ARINZE

EMEKA ICHU

VICTOR NWOSU

BENSOU EJIKEME

CHIEDU OKENNA

EROBU CONSTANCE

VICTOR ARINZE

UCHE ANOLIEFO

NZUBE ONOCHE

MADUKA OFONZE 

AND THERE ARE MANY MORE GREAT MEN AND WOMEN OF ANAMBRA, OBOSI IN LONDON. THE NAMES OF THESE OBOSI BROTHERS AND SISTERS ARE COPIED FROM THE OBOSI FORUM MEMBERS LIST  LONDON, 2014.

 

 

 

                            

 

 

10 MISTAKES THAT DESTROY RELATIONSHIP

* THE ONE WORST ENEMY OF A GOOD RELATIONSHIP IS LACK OF COMMUNICATION,

 *DWELLING ON THE PAST MISTAKES.

 *DEEPER SUBCONSCIOUS ANGRY FEELINGS CAN DESTROY A GOOD RELATIONSHIP IF YOU DO NOT FIND AWAY TO LET IT OUT AND DEAL WITH THE ISSUE THAT IS HOLDING YOU BACK.


HOW TO DEAL WITH IT

1) TALKING; LEARNING TO TALK, WHICH MEANS FINDING WAYS TO EXPRESS WHAT YOU WANT TO SAY IS A BIG TASK. COMMUNICATION OR GETTING YOUR POINT ACROSS SIMPLY MEANS SAYING WHAT YOU WANT TO SAY.

TO GET ANYONE TO LISTEN, IT'S BETTER TO USE SIMPLER WORDS AND DITCH AN UNHELPFUL MANNER OF TALKING, SUCH AS BLAMING.

2) COMMON HABITS THAT GET IN THE WAY OF HELPFUL COMMUNICATION, THAT YOU MIGHT NOT EVEN BE AWARE OF.

NOT SAYING WHAT YOU REALLY MEAN.
*NOT ADMITTING THAT SOMETHING IS BOTHERING YOU WHEN IT IS.
*TELLING YOUR PARTNER YOU DON'T MIND SOMETHING WHEN YOU DO.
*THAT YOU ARE HAPPY WHEN YOU ARE NOT
*ISSUES THAT YOUR PARTNER CAN DO NOTING ABOUT BECAUSE YOU'VE ACCEPTED THAT NOTING IS BOTHERING YOU, YOU'RE FEELINGS WILL BE BUILDING UP OVER MONTHS OR YEARS BEFORE YOU EXPLODE.
*NOT HAVING THE COURAGE TO SAY WHAT YOU FEEL AT THE TIME, PREVENTING IT UNTIL IT BECOMES MUCH LARGER AND MORE DIFFICULT TO SOLVE.

3) MAKING SOMETHING ELSE THE ISSUE. BY STARTING TO COMPLAIN ABOUT SOMETHING ELSE INSTEAD OF SAYING WHAT IS REALLY BOTHERING YOU.

4) NOT TALKING AND AVOIDING THE ISSUE THAT IS BOTHERING YOU, SOMETIMES RETREATING INTO SILENCE, OR GOING OUT, OR GOING TO BED EARLY RATHER THAN TALKING CAN BE A PROBLEM.
*MAYBE NOT TRUSTING YOURSELF TO SPEAK SHOULD IN CASE YOU GO OVER THE TOP.
*HIDING AN IMPORTANT ISSUE FROM YOUR PARTNER AND SO YOU'RE FINDING IT DIFFICULT TO TALK ABOUT OTHER MATTERS AND HOPPING THAT THE BAD FEELING WILL GO AWAY OR YOUR PARTNER WILL GUESS.
THE FEELINGS MIGHT GO AWAY  TEMPORARILY BUT WHEN THEY RETURN, THEY WILL BE  STRONGER THAN BEFORE.

5)NAGGING. GOING ON AND ON ABOUT SOMETHING AND CONVINCING YOURSELF THAT  YOU ARE BEING POSITIVE, IT'S TRUE YOU NEED A CHANGE WHICH IS IMPORTANT THAT YOU COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY BUT SAYING SOMETHING OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND TELLING SOMEONE HOW TO BEHAVE WONT GET YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO BE. AND IT WILL HAVE A BAD EFFECT OF MAKING THE OTHER PERSON GO DEAF.

6) HOLDING FORTH, WHEN YOU GET INTO THE HABIT OF TALKING ABOUT EVERYTHING THAT IS ON YOUR MIND WITHOUT NOTICING WHAT EFFECT THIS HAS ON YOUR PARTNER.

7) BEING A KNOW-IT- ALL, A PSYCHOANALYSE, YOU ARE AN EXPERT AND ALWAYS RIGHT.
*YOU KNOW WHAT YOUR PARTNER IS THINKING AND DOING.
*YOUR INSTINCTS ARE ACCURATE.
*YOU CANT GET IT WRONG SO THERE IS NO REASON FOR YOUR PARTNER TO EXPLAIN, YOU ALREADY KNOW THAT WOULD HAPPEN.

8)DISGUISED CRITICISM SAYING HOW YOU FEEL IN A BLAMING FASHION.
*THINGS LIKE, "YOU MAKE ME SAD OR ANGRY " MAYBE OR, "YOU MAKE ME DEPRESSED!"
*MAKING YOUR PARTNER RESPONSIBLE FOR HOW YOU FEEL
*CRITICISING YOUR PARTNER TO GET A REACTION TO DEFEND,  WILL CREATE MORE PROBLEMS RATHER THAN SOLUTIONS.

9) THE WAY YOU TALK, THE MANNER AND TONE OF YOUR VOICE ARE VERY IMPORTANT.
*SOMETIMES WHAT YOU SAY IS NOT THE ISSUE BUT THE WAY YOU SAID IT.

10)SWITCHING OFF. LETTING YOUR MIND WANDER ELSEWHERE WHEN YOUR PARTNER IS TALKING.

11)HALF LISTENING. YOUR MIND IS ON THE TELEVISION OR OCCUPIED WITH PRIVATE THOUGHTS OF YOUR OWN.

12)INTERRUPTING. WANTING YOUR OWN POINT  OF VIEW TO PREVAIL AND NOT PREPARED TO HEAR OTHER PEOPLES OPINIONS.

13)MIND READING. YOUR PARTNER IS THE ONLY PERSON YOU KNOW BEST IN THE WORLD AND THAT MAKES YOU BELIEVE YOU KNOW WHAT THEY THINK AND FEEL.

14)PROVING YOUR POINT. SELECTING LISTENING, WAITING FOR WHAT YOU WANT TO HEAR THAT YOU'VE PROVED YOUR POINT.
IGNORING ANYTHING ELSE YOUR PARTNER SAYS
LISTENING WITHOUT HEARING.

15)BLOCKING. SHUTTING YOUR PARTNER UP BY CRITICISING SOUND.
LOOKING SHOCKED.
CORRECTING.
LAUGHING.
CHANGING THE SUBJECT.
ARGUING.
WEEPING.
SHOUTING.

ALL THESE ACTIONS CAN DAMAGE YOUR RELATIONSHIP AND CAUSE DIVORCE OR SEPARATION. IF YOU DON'T LEARN TO COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY AND LEARN HOW TO HANDLE EACH OTHERS NEEDS AND WANTS.
                                   
                                                           THANKS FOR READING THIS.

PRACTICAL WAYS TO A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP

I UNDERSTAND MY RELATIONSHIP MORE ,WHEN I START TO RESPECT MY PARTNERS NEEDS .

I HAVE BEEN VERY SAD AND ANGRY  WITH MY PARTNER, ALSO, MY UNHAPPINESS WITH HIM HAS CHANGE MY FEELINGS TOWARDS HIM.

I AVOID  ARGUMENTS AND TALK OVER THE REASON WHY I'M NOT HAPPY
BECAUSE I KNOW THAT WILL ONLY BRING MORE ARGUMENTS.

MY KEEPING QUIET IS NOT HELPING THE MATTER EITHER, I GUESS ITS ONLY MAKING THE MATTER  WORSE. THAT IS THE REASON WHY I STARTED LOOKING FOR A AWAY OUT.

 I BECAME  DESPERATE ABOUT WHAT I WAS GOING TO DO TO PREVENT SEPARATION. I LOVED HIM AND HIS CHILDREN LOVED HIM TOO MUCH. THEY WERE GOING TO NEED HIM TO BE THERE AND HELP THEM TO GROW AS CONFIDENT ADULTS.

THAT WAS WHY I NEEDED TO PUT SOME EFFORT IN MAKING MY RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM WORK.

SO I DECIDED TO SEEK ADVICE FROM A RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLOR.
I LEARN A LOT FROM THE COUNSELLOR. THE PART OF IT THAT AMAZED ME THE MOST WAS THAT, IS A FACT OF LIFE, THAT TO LOVE SOMEONE BRINGS HEARTACHE. ALSO, THE MORE SOMEONE MATTER TO YOU, IS THE MORE YOU WILL BEGIN TO MIND WHAT THEY DO. ADDITIONALLY, MOST PROBLEMS THAT ARISE IN PARTNERSHIP, TEST ONES LOVE. HOWEVER, THE HEARTACHE LOVE BRINGS CAN INCREASE THE STRENGHT OF ONE LOVE.

MOREOVER,  THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS TO LEARN TO TACKLE DIFFERENCES POSITIVELY, WHICH CAN HELP COUPLES TO SURVIVE SERIOUS CRISES. ALSO WORKING THROUGH PROBLEMS TOGETHER SO THAT THERE IS NO WINNER OR LOSER  WILL HAVE A TRANSFORMING EFFECT ON LOVE.

LOVE THAT HAS NOT BEEN TESTED IS MORE FRAGILE.
SOME COUPLES BREAK UP AT THE FIRST SIGN OF TROUBLE.
AND OTHER COUPLES CLING TOGETHER FOREVER WHEN CLEARLY THERE IS NO LOVE. BUT MOST THINGS THAT ARE WORTH HAVING ARE GAINED THROUGH A GREAT DEAL OF EFFORT AND CONCENTRATION.

A DEEP, LASTING, ENRICHING LOVE MUST BE THE MOST PRECIOUS THING WE CAN HAVE IN OUR LIVES. BUT IT USUALLY STARTS WITH EMOTION, PASSION AND EXCITEMENT. WHETHER IT WILL BURN ITSELF OUT LIKE A MAGNIFICENT FIREWORK OR DEVELOP INTO THE KIND OF STRONG FUNDAMENTAL LOVE, THAT WILL DEPEND ON HOW WE APPROACH THE BAD TIMES.

PROBLEMS CAN BE GOOD FOR A RELATIONSHIP TO GROW. BUT ONLY IF YOU BOTH KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH THE PROBLEMS. WHICH WILL INVOLVE BRINGING YOURSELF TO THE ISSUE, YOUR WISDOM AND SENSE OF HUMOUR; YOUR GENEROSITY AND RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER,

;YOUR TOLERANCE AND YOUR COMMITMENT TO THE RELATIONSHIP;PATIENCE AND COURAGE AND SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO DO THIS  FOR A LONG PERIOD OF TIME.

FURTHERMORE, I'VE UNDERSTOOD THAT, IF WE DON'T PUT EFFORT INTO HOW WE SHOW LOVE, WE MIGHT MISS THE RICHEST AND MOST SATISFYING EXPERIENCES AND PARTS OF IT.

EVERY PROBLEM LARGE OR SMALL , CHALLENGES YOU WITH TWO POSSIBLE OUTCOMES, YOU CAN DIMINISH YOUR LOVE OR STRENGTHEN IT. BUT YOU HAVE TO DO THE HARD WORK AND IS NEVER A WAST OF TIME, LEARNING TO HANDLE LOVE AND THE PROBLEM THAT RESULTS FROM IT WILL MAKE  YOU A STRONGER AND MORE CONFIDENT PERSON.

ANY INDIVIDUAL WHO WANTS A GOOD RELATIONSHIP MUST BE PREPARED TO COMPROMISE, TO ENDURE DIFFICULTIES AND DISAPPOINTMENTS. IT'S TRUE THAT TRUE LOVE SHOULD BE EFFORTLESS, BUT PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS REQUIRE  HARD WORK.

FOR MANY OF US, A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP IS ABOUT MYTHICAL UNION, PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, SPIRITUALLY, AND EMOTIONALLY. AND WE WANT OUR PARTNER TO SUPPLY EVERYTHING WE COULD WISH FOR AND WE WANT TO BE HARMONIOUS FOREVER. THE REASON WE WANT ALL THIS IS BECAUSE WE HAVE TASTED IT BEFORE. WHEN WE FALL IN LOVE, WE GENERATE THAT FEELINGS  AND BELIEVE THAT FALLING IN LOVE SHOULD REMAIN LIKE THAT.

THE SCIENTISTS HAVE COMPARED THE FALLING IN LOVE FEELING TO THE FELLING WE HAVE WHEN WE TAKE DRUGS OR DRINK AND THE THOUGHT WE HOLD AND SENSATION ARE THE SAME.

WHEN WE ARE IN LOVE WE CAN DO ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING FOR OUR PARTNER AND WE WOULD NOT BOTHER ABOUT IMPERFECTION WHICH IS THE SAME WITH DRUGS OR DRINKS BUT THESE FEELINGS WILL EVENTUALLY WEAR OUT, BUT THE TANTALISING MEMORY OF IT WILL REMAIN.

 THE FACT IS THAT REAL RELATIONSHIPS HAVE TO LEAVE THIS FANTASY BEHIND AND THAT IS HARD FOR SOME PEOPLE TO ACCEPT. BUT THE BEST RELATIONSHIP PROVIDES SOMETHING MORE VALUABLE THAN THIS ROMANTIC FOG.

WHEN WE ARE IN LOVE WE ARE COMPLETELY WRAPPED UP WITH THE OTHER PERSON IN INTOXICATINGLY EXCLUSIVE AND EXCITING ONE -NESS. THIS UNION COULD BE SUFFOCATING AND LIMITING IF CONTINUED AND IT CAN'T LAST. EVERY CHANGE IN THE CIRCUMSTANCES HAS THE EFFECT OF BREAKING THE SPELLS.

STRONG INVISIBLE BONDS ARE FOUND IN PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS.
A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP CAN MEET ANY CHALLENGE AND USE THE EXPERIENCE POSITIVELY. A CRISIS CAN HIGHLIGHT THE VALUE OF A RELATIONSHIP, SHOWING YOU HOW MUCH IT MEANS TO YOU,
IT CAN PROVE HOW GOOD YOU ARE AT COPING OR IT CAN FORCE YOU TO FIND NEW WAYS TO COPE.

 YOU CAN BEGIN TO BUILD A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP BY LISTENING TO EACH OTHER AND RESPECTING EACH OTHERS NEEDS AND WANTS.
                    

WALK WITH GOD THE FATHER OF ALL.

GOD IS LOVE.

WALKING WITH GOD, IS WALKING IN LOVE.
TALKING A BOUT GOD IS TALKING ABOUT CREATION.
IS TALKING ABOUT THE HIGHER THAN THE HIGHEST,THE ABOVE ALL, THE GREATER, THE MERCIFUL.


 MY FATHER IN WHOM I DEPEND ON, WHOM I TRUST AND REST MY HOPE ON.
 HE HIS THE ONLY ONE THAT  KNOWS IT ALL.
 IF MY FATHER SAYS KNOW? WHO CAN SAY YES?
THE ON CHANGING CHANGER.
THE SECRET OF LIFE.
THE ALL THAT HAS BEEN.
THE ALL THAT WILL EVER BE.
THE INFINITE POWER.
 THE CREATION,
THE ALWAYS WAS.
THE ALWAYS HAS BEEN.
THE NEVER CAN BE CREATED,
THE NEVER CAN BE DESTROYED.
THE ALL THAT EVER WAS.
THE ONLY THAT WILL ALWAYS BE.

GOD GAVE US EVERYTHING, AND WE CAN HAVE EVERYTHING IF WE UNDERSTAND GOD, KNOW GOD AND FOLLOW HIS WAYS;
                                         
                                                       HE GAVE US THE LIFE;

LIFE; HE WHO HAS THE SON HAS LIFE; HE WHO DOES NOT HAVE THE SON OF GOD
DOES NOT HAVE LIFE. 1 JOHN 5;2

PRAY; AND I WILL DO WHATEVER YOU ASK IN MY NAME, SO THAT THE SON MAY BRING GLORY TO THE FATHER. YOU MAY ASK ME ANYTHING IN MY NAME AND I WILL DO IT. JOHN14:13,14

WISDOM: FOR WISDOM IS MORE PRECIOUS THAN RUBIES, AND NOTING YOU DESIRE CAN COMPARE WITH HER. PROVERBS 8:11

IF ANY OF YOU LACK WISDOM, HE SHOULD ASK GOD, WHO GIVES GENEROUSLY TO ALL WITHOUT FINDING FAULT, AND IT WILL BE GIVING TO HIM JAMES 1:5

HEAVEN: GOD HAS GIVEN US NEW BIRTH INTO A LIVING HOPE THROUGH THE RESURRECTION OF JESUS CHRIST FROM THE DEAD, AND INTO AN INHERITANCE THAT CAN NEVER PERISH, SPOIL OR FADE - KEPT IN HEAVEN FOR YOU. 1 PETER 1: 3,4

ETERNAL LIFE: I TELL YOU THE TRUTH, WHOEVER HEARS MY WORD AND BELIEVES HIM WHO SENT ME HAS LIFE AND WILL NOT BE CONDEMNED; HE HAS CROSSED OVER FROM DEATH TO LIFE. JOHN 5:24

SECURITY: I GIVE THEM ETERNAL LIFE, AND THEY SHALL NEVER PERISH,NO ONE CAN SNATCH THEM OUT OF MY HAND. MY FATHER WHO HAS GIVEN IT TO ME IS GREATER THAN ALL. JOHN 10:28,29

ENEMIES: LOVE YOUR ENEMIES, DO GOOD TO THOSE WHO HATE YOU, BLESS THOSE WHO CURSE YOU YOU, PRAY FOR THOSE WHO ILL- TREAT YOU. LUKE 6:27,28.

THAT IS MY FATHER HE IS ABLE TO DO ALL THINGS.
ALL WHO ARE CRYING
ALL WHO ARE WEAK
COME TO THE FATHER AND SIN KNOW MORE.
 ACCEPT JESUS HAS YOUR LORD AND YOUR SAVIOUR, ACCEPTING JESUS
IS THE BEGINNING OF UNDERSTANDING GODS WAYS AND HIS COMMANDMENTS.

 I AM THE GOD YOUR GOD,
YOU SHALL HAVE NO OTHER GODS BEFORE ME
YOU SHALL NOT MAKE FOR YOURSELF AN IDOL
YOU SHALL NOT MISUSE THE NAME OF THE LORD YOUR GOD
REMEMBER THE SABBATH DAY BY KEEPING IT HOLY
HONOUR YOUR FATHER AND MOTHER
YOU SHALL NOT MURDER
YOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY
YOU SHALL NOT STEAL
YOU SHALL NOT GIVE FALSE TESTIMONY
YOU SHALL NOT COVET ANY THING THAT BELONGS TO YOUR NEIGHBOUR

                        JESUS SAID THE GREATEST COMMANDMENT IS
TO LOVE THE GOD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART, YOUR SOUL AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND .
SECOND IS TO LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOUR AS YOURSELF. MATTHEW 22.
                                            GIVE GOD ALL THE GLORY
                                                  WITHOUT GOD
                                              THERE IS KNOW YOU!
                                                  PRAISE THE LORD!