I HAVE BEEN VERY SAD AND ANGRY WITH MY PARTNER, ALSO, MY UNHAPPINESS WITH HIM HAS CHANGE MY FEELINGS TOWARDS HIM.
I AVOID ARGUMENTS AND TALK OVER THE REASON WHY I'M NOT HAPPY
BECAUSE I KNOW THAT WILL ONLY BRING MORE ARGUMENTS.
MY KEEPING QUIET IS NOT HELPING THE MATTER EITHER, I GUESS ITS ONLY MAKING THE MATTER WORSE. THAT IS THE REASON WHY I STARTED LOOKING FOR A AWAY OUT.
I BECAME DESPERATE ABOUT WHAT I WAS GOING TO DO TO PREVENT SEPARATION. I LOVED HIM AND HIS CHILDREN LOVED HIM TOO MUCH. THEY WERE GOING TO NEED HIM TO BE THERE AND HELP THEM TO GROW AS CONFIDENT ADULTS.
THAT WAS WHY I NEEDED TO PUT SOME EFFORT IN MAKING MY RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM WORK.
SO I DECIDED TO SEEK ADVICE FROM A RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLOR.
I LEARN A LOT FROM THE COUNSELLOR. THE PART OF IT THAT AMAZED ME THE MOST WAS THAT, IS A FACT OF LIFE, THAT TO LOVE SOMEONE BRINGS HEARTACHE. ALSO, THE MORE SOMEONE MATTER TO YOU, IS THE MORE YOU WILL BEGIN TO MIND WHAT THEY DO. ADDITIONALLY, MOST PROBLEMS THAT ARISE IN PARTNERSHIP, TEST ONES LOVE. HOWEVER, THE HEARTACHE LOVE BRINGS CAN INCREASE THE STRENGHT OF ONE LOVE.
MOREOVER, THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IS TO LEARN TO TACKLE DIFFERENCES POSITIVELY, WHICH CAN HELP COUPLES TO SURVIVE SERIOUS CRISES. ALSO WORKING THROUGH PROBLEMS TOGETHER SO THAT THERE IS NO WINNER OR LOSER WILL HAVE A TRANSFORMING EFFECT ON LOVE.
LOVE THAT HAS NOT BEEN TESTED IS MORE FRAGILE.
SOME COUPLES BREAK UP AT THE FIRST SIGN OF TROUBLE.
AND OTHER COUPLES CLING TOGETHER FOREVER WHEN CLEARLY THERE IS NO LOVE. BUT MOST THINGS THAT ARE WORTH HAVING ARE GAINED THROUGH A GREAT DEAL OF EFFORT AND CONCENTRATION.
A DEEP, LASTING, ENRICHING LOVE MUST BE THE MOST PRECIOUS THING WE CAN HAVE IN OUR LIVES. BUT IT USUALLY STARTS WITH EMOTION, PASSION AND EXCITEMENT. WHETHER IT WILL BURN ITSELF OUT LIKE A MAGNIFICENT FIREWORK OR DEVELOP INTO THE KIND OF STRONG FUNDAMENTAL LOVE, THAT WILL DEPEND ON HOW WE APPROACH THE BAD TIMES.
PROBLEMS CAN BE GOOD FOR A RELATIONSHIP TO GROW. BUT ONLY IF YOU BOTH KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH THE PROBLEMS. WHICH WILL INVOLVE BRINGING YOURSELF TO THE ISSUE, YOUR WISDOM AND SENSE OF HUMOUR; YOUR GENEROSITY AND RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER,
;YOUR TOLERANCE AND YOUR COMMITMENT TO THE RELATIONSHIP;PATIENCE AND COURAGE AND SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO DO THIS FOR A LONG PERIOD OF TIME.
FURTHERMORE, I'VE UNDERSTOOD THAT, IF WE DON'T PUT EFFORT INTO HOW WE SHOW LOVE, WE MIGHT MISS THE RICHEST AND MOST SATISFYING EXPERIENCES AND PARTS OF IT.
EVERY PROBLEM LARGE OR SMALL , CHALLENGES YOU WITH TWO POSSIBLE OUTCOMES, YOU CAN DIMINISH YOUR LOVE OR STRENGTHEN IT. BUT YOU HAVE TO DO THE HARD WORK AND IS NEVER A WAST OF TIME, LEARNING TO HANDLE LOVE AND THE PROBLEM THAT RESULTS FROM IT WILL MAKE YOU A STRONGER AND MORE CONFIDENT PERSON.
ANY INDIVIDUAL WHO WANTS A GOOD RELATIONSHIP MUST BE PREPARED TO COMPROMISE, TO ENDURE DIFFICULTIES AND DISAPPOINTMENTS. IT'S TRUE THAT TRUE LOVE SHOULD BE EFFORTLESS, BUT PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS REQUIRE HARD WORK.
FOR MANY OF US, A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP IS ABOUT MYTHICAL UNION, PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, SPIRITUALLY, AND EMOTIONALLY. AND WE WANT OUR PARTNER TO SUPPLY EVERYTHING WE COULD WISH FOR AND WE WANT TO BE HARMONIOUS FOREVER. THE REASON WE WANT ALL THIS IS BECAUSE WE HAVE TASTED IT BEFORE. WHEN WE FALL IN LOVE, WE GENERATE THAT FEELINGS AND BELIEVE THAT FALLING IN LOVE SHOULD REMAIN LIKE THAT.
THE SCIENTISTS HAVE COMPARED THE FALLING IN LOVE FEELING TO THE FELLING WE HAVE WHEN WE TAKE DRUGS OR DRINK AND THE THOUGHT WE HOLD AND SENSATION ARE THE SAME.
WHEN WE ARE IN LOVE WE CAN DO ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING FOR OUR PARTNER AND WE WOULD NOT BOTHER ABOUT IMPERFECTION WHICH IS THE SAME WITH DRUGS OR DRINKS BUT THESE FEELINGS WILL EVENTUALLY WEAR OUT, BUT THE TANTALISING MEMORY OF IT WILL REMAIN.
THE FACT IS THAT REAL RELATIONSHIPS HAVE TO LEAVE THIS FANTASY BEHIND AND THAT IS HARD FOR SOME PEOPLE TO ACCEPT. BUT THE BEST RELATIONSHIP PROVIDES SOMETHING MORE VALUABLE THAN THIS ROMANTIC FOG.
WHEN WE ARE IN LOVE WE ARE COMPLETELY WRAPPED UP WITH THE OTHER PERSON IN INTOXICATINGLY EXCLUSIVE AND EXCITING ONE -NESS. THIS UNION COULD BE SUFFOCATING AND LIMITING IF CONTINUED AND IT CAN'T LAST. EVERY CHANGE IN THE CIRCUMSTANCES HAS THE EFFECT OF BREAKING THE SPELLS.
STRONG INVISIBLE BONDS ARE FOUND IN PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS.
A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP CAN MEET ANY CHALLENGE AND USE THE EXPERIENCE POSITIVELY. A CRISIS CAN HIGHLIGHT THE VALUE OF A RELATIONSHIP, SHOWING YOU HOW MUCH IT MEANS TO YOU,
IT CAN PROVE HOW GOOD YOU ARE AT COPING OR IT CAN FORCE YOU TO FIND NEW WAYS TO COPE.
YOU CAN BEGIN TO BUILD A PERFECT RELATIONSHIP BY LISTENING TO EACH OTHER AND RESPECTING EACH OTHERS NEEDS AND WANTS.
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